The Advantage of Being Fatherless
A Father’s Day Message to Heart of God Church Youths
Every Father’s Day, my heart goes out to the youths in Heart of God Church who do not have a father at home. I do not want them to feel left out. While other young people celebrate with their families, for these youths, it can be an awkward or meaningless occasion.
So, every year, I write a letter to them. This is what I wrote last year.
This Father’s Day, I write to all of you who are not celebrating this occasion.
For the past 4 years, I have been writing to you as a father would to his children. But this year, I am writing with the aim to change your mindset.
If there is a title to this little message, it will be – The advantage of being fatherless.
In a perfect world, it is always good to have a father.
However, in a fallen world, I have also observed that sometimes – an absent father is better than a bad father.
A void in the heart is better than a thorn in the flesh.
For those of you who are fatherless, you don’t start from a disadvantage. You actually start on a neutral.
Sometimes family carries both blessing and baggage.
So you may not enjoy the blessing but you certainly will not be burdened by the baggage.
You have no big shoes to fill.
You have no footsteps to follow.
You don’t live under a shadow.
You don’t have a family name or tradition to uphold.
I have seen the hopes and fears of parents holding their children hostage.
I have seen family expectations and traditions taking their children prisoner.
The life jacket for one generation can become a straitjacket for the next.
The life jacket of a stable job for parents can become a straitjacket for the entrepreneurial spirit of the children.
The life jacket of financial security for one generation can become a straitjacket for the spiritual dreams and idealism of the next generation.
There would not be Apple if Steve Jobs had not dropped out of college.
There would not be freedom for Israel if Moses had not left the palace.
There would not be Heart of God Church, if I had taken over my father’s business 20 years ago.
There would not be a youth church, if Pastor Lia had not quit her job as a journalist.
Thus, in this sense, my dear fatherless friends, you have an advantage.
You are free to paint on the white canvas of your life.
You can live your dreams unencumbered by the burden of the previous generation.
You are free.
So be free.
Dream big dreams.
Live for Jesus.
Change the world!
You don’t need to have “daddy issues” too.
You have a Father in heaven.
Love & Respect,